Becoming a parent will turn your life completely upside down. You suddenly have this creature for whom you must perform many roles - safe space, nurturer, provider, protector. Becoming a single parent means performing all the roles when your children are under your care. You have to switch between being the gentle parent, the tough-love... Continue Reading →
A Stone Unturned
If you've been separate from your spouse for a year, you'd think most sticky situations would have come up over the course of 365 days. We've all had birthdays and every holiday, done school and summer breaks, traveled, looped in grandparents and cousins, surely we know what we're doing by now. You would be wrong.... Continue Reading →
A Very Merry Unbirthday
There are bad changes that come with divorce, but there are also a lot of good changes that have surprised me. Lately, I've been thinking about traditions. We don't have to completely abandon the things we did before, but we also don't have to adhere to previously agreed upon rules anymore. Our lives are really... Continue Reading →
In Defense of Stillness
I have more free time in this new life I've created, and that's not always a good thing. Since the end of my marriage I have done my best to fill my time with things that bring me joy whenever possible. At first I was packing the house to relocate so I barely sat down... Continue Reading →
In Her Unhinged Era
When an abrupt change in life circumstances gives you the chance to reboot your life, important decisions must be made. Will you start a new and unlikely career? An MLM? Will you date? Start a long term relationship? And, most importantly, will you start wearing an ostentations accessory to advertise your unbalanced mental health? I... Continue Reading →
Logistically Speaking
There are a lot of things about divorce I have found surprising. Some surprises are delightful, like extra free time, having my kids all to myself when they are with me, not having to check in with a partner when I make decisions, and living as I choose. Some surprises are less delightful. I was... Continue Reading →